SINGLE AND NOT SEARCHING?

My Expiry Date I dreaded.


"You won't learn how to cook erh! if you don't learn how to cook, and you get married, your husband will put your soup in a bottle and bring it home" that was the sentence i kept hearing from my mom growing up. i would laugh about it and tell her that well, if my soup is brought to her, it would be at her discredit.

 Cooking has never been something i love doing. i see it as a chore and always felt like if that is the only reason a man will marry me then i might never get married because i believe my value is worth more than just cooking. (i learnt it in my adult years though, so i can cook for myself).


Being single in my society has been misconstrued to mean so many things. it is either you are a bad girl or not well brought up hence your inability to be found by a man. Marriage is a good (especially when you find right person) thing no doubt about it and i endorse it. however, no one is supposed to be coerced into marrying because the age clock is ticking. I am thirty plus one and life at this stage could not have been any calmer.

I bought stress formyself in my twenties when i was looking for happiness andfulfillment in all the wrong places. On my twenty third birthday, my dad called me and gave me an advice for the first time, that sounded wierd as we both didnt have that relationship. well hesaid" Maame, you are off age now and the men will be coming around, make sure you marry someone who loves you and whom you love in return. the equation has to be equal" for a moment, i was wondering whether it was a scum, was it really my dad? (we will talk about him another day)

Moving through the rest of my twenties made me realize that Dad was right, the equation has to be equal. love in our 21st century is nothing but an illustion that never seem to come to reality.







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